ABOUT:
Hi, I’m Paul and I specialize in providing a safe and nurturing space for women who want to connect to their bodies and divine femininity, particularly if they have experienced sexual trauma, abusive relationships, religious trauma or difficulties with men.
My approach combines Tantra, Sexological Bodywork, The Wheel of Consent and Somatic Trauma Therapy. I support women in reconnecting with their bodies, expressing their desires, and asserting their boundaries and power. My ultimate goal is to facilitate women’s journeys towards healing and empowerment, and to help them discover the goddess within themselves.
Considering a tantric massage can be both exciting and challenging, particularly if you’ve lost trust with men, or perhaps never trusted them at all. The first thing I feel in all my clients is their courage in starting to explore this path. I never forget the trust and vulnerability that you are placing in my hands and I constantly strive to provide a sacred, safe space and give you as much control as possible over everything that happens.
I offer a complete path to be ready for tantric massage. Some clients would like a massage in the first session, for others, even being in a room talking to a man is a big challenge. Wherever you are on your journey, I can meet you there and we’ll walk together towards the possibilities of tantric massage and your divine femininity.
During our sessions, we are led by your feminine intuition about what’s right for you. And if you’re not sure what’s right for you, then we start by helping you develop that intuition and being able to assert your boundaries.
We can start without any touch at all, or some simple conscious touch with clothes on. We can do exercises to awaken your energy or explore the polarity between the masculine consciousness and feminine energy. All of these practices are developing your abilities and power and can bring healing and release at many levels. This allows you to reconnect with your feminine essence and embrace the full range of your sensual and sexual expression.
We can go as gently as you like and take as long as you need. And you can express what you need to: I’ve held clients as they’ve released intense shame, guilt, anger or grief. My role is to hold with love and care every part of you.
When you are ready for a tantric or yoni massage, which could be the first session, or after a longer journey of healing, we aim to create a magical experience together. Within the massage are many possibilities, such as experiencing and moving your energy, feeling intense arousal and pleasure, de-armouring and releasing of blocks and emotions or experiencing profound spiritual states. So we’ll understand what you’d like and set our intentions for the experience that would be most beneficial for you. Then over the course of a few hours, you can surrender into the experience of your body and energy. My role is to hold you with love, care and adoration, and, through touch, to awaken everything that is beautiful in you so that you can experience the goddess that you are.
Healing is a journey that can take time, and tantric massage can be a profound part of that journey. If you’re on that path of healing, I’d love to walk alongside you, providing the loving support that can take you to the goddess within you.
I’m Paul and I’ve been on a 20-year journey of self-development, constantly learning to be a better man. On that path, I’ve qualified in coaching and “talking” therapies, I journey into my spiritual self through classical Tantra and Yoga, and I teach others the tools that helped me.
On my journey, many powerful women have helped me – women who saw the best in me, women who inspired me to become a better man, women who shared their knowledge and gifts with me and women who trusted me with deep vulnerabilities. Thanks to them, I’m becoming the man I want to be.
On that journey, I met one incredible woman who was recovering from sexual assault. She allowed me to hold space for her and, in that space, I learnt both the terrible ongoing effects of assault and the incredible courage and determination of the women who overcome it. She inspired me to learn more, so I trained in Sexological Bodywork and Somatic Trauma Therapy, so I could work with consent, sexuality and the body in a trauma-informed way. She showed me that this is the most meaningful work I could be doing. And, as she put it, “sometimes the damage done by men needs to be undone with a man”
I am a member of the Association of Sexological Bodyworkers, and I’m a visiting trainer for Sexological Bodyworkers at The School of Relational Embodiment and The School of Somatic Sexology. I also train coaches, therapists and sexological bodyworkers in Clean Language and Embodiment as part of the Clean Change Community, which I founded.
Should you work with me? Only you can decide. And you might find it useful to read my article how to choose a sexuality professional.
I felt so honoured, seen and safe. I felt incredible. I still can’t get over the warm waves of sensation in my body. I can’t believe the change: this morning I woke so calm. I’m holding myself with compassion. I feel like a woman that is worthy of love.
Jennifer
I had severe trust issues with men due to previous trauma but the sessions I received from Paul were so loving and nurturing. He made me feel cherished, seen, attractive but, most importantly of all, safe… Paul is incredibly sensitive, patient and loving. I feel I have made huge progress and feel ready to embark on a new relationship after keeping myself closed down for so many years.
Elizabeth
Working with Paul has and continues to be transformative for me. He has a special energy and holds such a beautiful safe space. I started with an intense distrust and fear of men, along with deep childhood trauma and sexual trauma. I was scared and unsure what was going to play out. I’ve been blown away by the dynamic that emerged between us, which has and continues to facilitate much healing. Paul has always deferred to my intuition, empowering me, championing me, allowing me my own process. All of me is welcome in session. Even when my fears and conditioning rose to challenge him, he held them gently, with understanding, compassion and honoured me in my process. All this has allowed my feminine to rise and show herself at ever deepening levels. I’m learning to trust myself, hold myself and am creating a deepening safety in myself. I can feel myself expanding after decades of contraction. Working with Paul is a real gift.
Emma
I am so grateful for the experience. It felt like such a gift and I felt so honoured and revered as a goddess. Paul really held the masculine energy with clear intention and brought true purity of intention and energy to his work. I have worked with other male practitioners in sexual / sensual energy work, and there has been a lot of confusion & attraction between us. After working with Paul, I feel like I truly understand how masculine energy can be held in a safe, pure way and with clear intention and professionalism. Thank you for this – I feel like I now have a model of how to do this work in the right way. I also want to share that I continue to feel increased sensitivity in my yoni post-session!
Jacqueline
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