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Jem Ayres

Brighton & London, UK


Jem Ayres is a Somatic Sex Educator, Orgasmic Embodiment Coach.

With a rich background of Tantra and a certificate in Sexological Bodywork, Jem offers Bodywork sessions and Online Coaching to individuals and couples who wish to stoke their inner-fire. That fire is healing, it’s pleasure, it’s self-acceptance, it’s motivation, it’s deep self-love, it’s creativity and it’s connection with yourself and what you put out into the world.

Services & Offerings

Jem offers both in-person bodywork sessions and online coaching for both individuals and couples.

One2one Bodywork and Online Coaching sessions:

During these sessions, we can work through the body for

  • Growth
  • Healing
  • Intimacy
  • Pleasure

Who can benefit from Somatic Bodywork and Online Coaching practise?

Anyone who identifies with the following:

  • Individuals who wish to find new pathways to pleasure
  • Couples who wish to connect more deeply, learning alternative ways of being sexual and sensual together.
  • Anxiety around intimacy
  • Negative body image
  • Disconnection from body, too ‘in the head’ which blocks pleasure
  • Low libido/lack of interest o desire in sex
  • Choice around Orgasm – what holds you back?
  • Performance anxiety, erection or ejaculation dissatisfaction.
  • Genital pain, numbness or tension
  • Pelvic or genital scarring from surgery and/or childbirth

How it works:

Sexological bodywork is a co-created session between you and myself.

After enquiry I would send you a confidential intake form for you to fill out and send back.  The information on this form will help me tailor your Bodywork and Coaching session for you, and I would talk you through this in advance so as you can make changes and know what to expect.

The session can include coaching, breathwork, massage, consensual touch and other somatic exercises to explore what comes up within you.

You’ll be set homework to do in between sessions, as your development is very much in your hands.

Whether its understanding yourself, your body and your arousal more, wanting to deepen your connection with your partner or learn some self-touch Orgasmic Yoga techniques for more mindful masturbation, get in touch to see if what Jem has to offer could fit what you need.

Free phone call consultations must be booked in advance via email:  hello@jemayres.co.uk

Online Pleasure Coaching:

Time to step into your own personal journey of sexual self-development.

Whether its expanding a greater capacity for pleasure all-round, having more presence with your partner, working through sexual challenges or learning a greater range of touch techniques to use on yourself and you partner, my private online coaching sessions will be tailored to you and offer you guidance and support to working towards your intentions.

Suitable for both individuals and couples.

Whether you’re single, solo, in a relationship, satisfied with your sex life or not there is always more we learn about our bodies.

These are 1-hour sessions where we talk about your habits and pleasure patterns and identify where you could learn more.  I guide you through somatic experiences to drop you into a deeper awareness of sensation throughout the whole body, teach you touch techniques and set you homework to do during the week.

Sex coaching for couples:

I work honouring couples of any gender and sexual orientation.

Whether you’ve lost your spark over time, your physical responses to each other have changed from when you first met, or you wish to take your connection to a deeper level, my couples sex coaching can be tailored to your needs and boundaries.  Creating space and time to be with our beloved intimately is vital to any relationship, but this precious time can get easily sacrificed when we get busy with work, children, life, or just grow too relaxed in each other’s company, especially in longer-term partnerships.

I hold a space where couples can invest in their relationship by exploring new gateways into intimacy, and find different opportunities for discovering pleasure with each other. These are valuable exercises, tools and techniques you will also be able to take home to practice and play.

I wish to assist you in reigniting desire for your beloved through exploring new territory, which allows you to see your lover through fresh eyes.  We can reframe the traditional role of penetration in sex and become aware of our response to our own or our lover’s genitals.

Offering a chance to rediscover and relearn your authentic pleasures together, which can lead us together to expand into true bliss. A safe playful space of non-judgment, able to voice your needs and desires to each other, without blame or shame, and finding a fresh way to connect.

I offer both online and in-person couples coaching and bodywork sessions.  This can be a process as a couple being guided through together, or alternatively, it can be a mix of one2one coaching for each of you, then coming back together for sessions to expand on your individual learning.

Check out my website for more info:  www.jemayres.co.uk

If there’s something here that rings a bell for you then do get in touch. All discussions confidential:  hello@jemayres.co.uk


“I felt totally comfortable and safe with Jem to open up and address long-hidden intimacy and sexuality-related issues.

When you meet her, it is clear that she intimately embodies self-love, kindness and healthy sexuality, and this is deeply transformative in itself, to be around someone who has intimate experience with this work herself.”



“Jem’s gentle yet strong presence in the whole process supporting you and helping you to stay focused as well as have some fun is really inspiring. I am on my second set of coaching sessions and have met with pleasure and my resistance to pleasure as well as had some beautiful orgasmic lovemaking with my partner that set our relationship sexually on a new level. It takes courage, self-discipline and self-motivation to stay with the process and I won’t say I have it all the time but I also am more aware of my limitations which makes them easier to shift. Jem is wonderfully supportive with a no-nonsense groundedness which I really like with a wealth of knowledge about different techniques and processes. I can highly recommend her sessions to anyone, single or in relationship.”



For most of us the way we touch our bodies for pleasure is a habitual pattern we learned from our younger years....which often hasn't really evolved as we've grown, and often no longer suits our needs.

What I hear from people:

My orgasms have become less intense over the years

I can't orgasm with my partner, only on my own.

I can only orgasm through one type of touch

I depend on porn/toys / a partner to get aroused

I no longer orgasm

I’m numb inside

I can't feel pleasure in soft cock

My bits get sore

I feel a lot of shame around my body and expressing myself

The one that always gets me:

I know there is more pleasure to be had, but I don't know how to get it.

So let's look at the huge expansive pleasure that we could find in our bodies, as our old habits of 'getting off' often just limit us, however nice they are. Let's open up to more choice in our bodies, our pleasure and our eroticism.

Let's remove the pressure of having to 'get it right' or achieve orgasm. This for me is the best way to experience our full range of orgasmic potential.

We learn about the pleasure scale and working with relaxed arousal. We learn about finding the pleasure in our fingertips. We learn about using our whole body as an erogenous zone. We speak about different orgasms, and what can hold us back from achieving arousal.

“Jem is a total natural at this, she has bucket loads of knowledge on the subject of sexual energy and self-pleasure beyond what you can learn in a book. Jem embodies her work. Nothing seems to phase her when discussing what was possible for my pleasure practice. I'm inspired by her coaching to integrate it into my life more, I feel like I've scratched the surface of what is possible and look forward to exploring more. Meeting myself and my body with fresh eyes each day, to enhance my pleasure and connection with life”



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