I’m Sapphire. I help individuals and intimate partners who are too afraid to claim the sex and relationship they have been craving: who want more desire, more intimacy and less shame in their sex lives and relationships.
I’m a somatic sexologist, a relationship coach, and a psychosexual and relationship therapist in training, completing a postgraduate diploma and MSc at a COSRT-accredited institute in the UK.
I’m in a non-monogamous, unconventional relationship, and it shapes how I work. I know what it is to build a relationship without a script: to say what I want out loud, hear what my partner wants, and stay in the room when the answer is hard.
Before this I spent years in the marketing and corporate world, where everything is yes or no, pass or fail. Intimacy doesn’t work like that.
The people I work with are usually capable and self-aware. They can explain their pattern better than most people, and it still happens. The same fight on repeat. The desire that faded. The thing they have never said out loud. The shame about what they want.
That gap between understanding and feeling is where I work.
Whether you’re monogamous, opening up, already open, or somewhere you haven’t named yet, nothing is taboo here. I work with individuals and couples on three things: the loop you keep repeating, the difference in desire between you, and the shame around what you want, what you need and how you love. I start with the body, using somatic and research-based practices.
The parts of tantra that matter most to me are the foundation of my work: slowing down, breath, presence in the body, and staying in contact when things get intense. I teach these through somatic sexology and trauma-informed practice.
Work Experience:
Certified in somatic sexology [2025]
Certified in trauma-informed yoga [2023]
Psychosexual and relationship therapy, Postgraduate diploma and MSc, COSRT-accredited institute, UK (in progress)
Supervised clinical placement as a psychosexual and relationship therapist
BA in psychology, Tel Aviv University
4 years’ experience in group facilitation of somatic workshops and retreats
Private sessions for individuals and couples, online or in person in Cologne
Six-month intimacy and relationship mentorship: twelve sessions, a personal library of practices to keep, and support between sessions
Private two-day intensive, online or in a castle outside Cologne with a private lake and forest, followed by two sessions with me so the process continues.
“Before working with Sapphire I had lost touch with my playful, sensual side somewhere between a long-term relationship, motherhood and everyday responsibilities. Life was good, but the spark was missing. I rediscovered curiosity and adventurousness, this time without the shame, the insecurity or the guilt.”
M
Germany · 10 years together, 2 of them open
“We came because we wanted to explore more, and find different ways to connect. To discover things we might not have discovered on our own. Having that space, without so much judgement offear about it, got us thinking more and talking to each other about it a lot more openly .”
ELLISON & PETER
United Kingdom · 4 years together
“In such a short time she really understood us, saw the challenges we were
experiencing, and gave us the most precise and fitting guidance for our situation. The session completely changed the way we communicate around touch and intimacy, and shifted my whole perspective on physical touch.”
MAYA & DAN
Israel · 8 years together
“I stopped thinking I was the problematic one. Now I have exercises, so I can feel what my body feels in these situations, because my mind knows but my body still experiences the past. And I have different words for what I experience, which is helping him understand that I have a different language for sexuality than he does.”
Lena
Germany · 3 years in a poly relationship
“I realised my body has all the answers, and if I can find ways to get out of the mind and connect to the body , I can trust the wisdom inside. I felt relaxed and grounded after the session. I worried less, and I trusted myself and my decisions more.”
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